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- 9th grade OGE
- Diffidence
Self-doubt really bothers many people. It's like not knowing that you have lots and lots of money in your wallet. And you save every penny, are afraid to buy even what you need... And you simply don’t use your resources, don’t allow yourself to develop!
How many cases have there been when a person went towards his dream, for example, he hoped for a promotion or wanted to go to another country. And then a “miracle” happened, or it seems to him that it was a miracle, but in fact he himself achieved it with his work. Here is a person who is already one step away from his dream, but he suddenly refuses. The man thought and decided that he couldn’t cope. He's just unsure of himself!
It is on the threshold of big changes and events that a person can simply back up due to a lack of self-confidence. And it also happens that uncertainty simply spoils a person’s ordinary life. Some people cannot communicate well with other people. For example: with sellers, with drivers, even with acquaintances. It seems to such an insecure person that everyone only sees his shortcomings. Here, of course, the tension is noticeable, you can start to get confused in words, stutter... When such a person gets down to business (if he does), he immediately thinks that it won’t work out. If his forecast is confirmed, then it seems to make the person happy. “I told you so! I never…” Why then, in general, take on anything?
Often insecurity is caused by communication with the opposite sex. Also, many guys can’t talk to a girl or get to know each other. And the girls have the same story. In short, uncertainty interferes with everything.
What should I do with her? Slowly overcome. Do a little bit, praise yourself. The main thing is not to close yourself off, not to consider the world as an enemy. In a new environment, for example, a person usually feels out of place. But if you get used to it quickly enough, you can soon help other beginners.
By the way, excessive self-confidence and constant praise for nothing are also not the best character traits.
In general, we need to admit it, everyone has insecurity - even the most successful (just at different moments). And it is important to overcome it, and not let it close you within four walls. For me, if something is difficult, then I try to evaluate my strength objectively and divide the action into several “pieces”. Not all at once!
Essay reasoning Self-doubt
Self-doubt is a feeling that lives deep inside a person and does not allow him to exist normally. Usually it manifests itself in doubts, which, as a consequence, results in low self-esteem.
So where does self-doubt come from and is it necessary to fight it? Self-doubt begins in childhood and either goes away over time or increases every year. Perhaps the parents did not praise the child enough in childhood, or something did not work out for him, and on this basis a lack of self-confidence arose.
This feeling does not allow a person to live in peace, constantly reminding himself of himself. Low self-esteem does not allow a person to develop or take on any business. After all, every time an inner voice whispers: “What if you can’t cope?” This is how self-doubt manifests itself. This feeling can easily be called a disease, and people with this syndrome almost never achieve their goals. Simply because they don’t put them before themselves. After all, they are not sure whether they can achieve it. People who lack self-confidence will not be able to make a career; they are doomed to failure. Therefore, you need to fight low self-esteem, remove it from your consciousness, so that life can sparkle with bright colors again.
How to deal with self-doubt? You just need to overcome yourself and take the first step. Tell yourself: “I can do it. This time I will do everything in my power to do it.” It may not be possible to overcome uncertainty the first time. But if you remind yourself every day that you are worth something, you will certainly be able to overcome yourself. And uncertainty will fade into the background, giving way to a self-sufficient personality.
But there is such low self-esteem that simple self-hypnosis will not help. Then friends come to the rescue. After all, you can always rely on good friends, even in increasing self-esteem and getting rid of self-doubt.
I had a friend, Lisa, who, until the 9th grade, was afraid to take on any task because she thought that she would not be able to do it well. This continued until one day, our friend asked Lisa to do creative work for her. Lisa had no choice, and the next day the teacher had a wonderful project work in front of her. It turned out that Lisa has a talent in the field of drawing. Finally, she believed in herself and put her uncertainty on the far shelf.
Thus, we can say that self-doubt is just a block in a person's head. A wall that needs to be gotten rid of for a normal and happy life.
Reasons for distrusting others
In principle, all of the above reasons influence the formation of mistrust. For a child, for a long time after birth, parents are the whole world, and their behavior and attitude towards the child described above does not contribute to the establishment of a trusting relationship. The child projects: how my parents treat me, so does the whole world, and for many it becomes hostile, accusing, punishing and punishing for sins and missteps.
Parental attitudes affect us so strongly because they are repeated many times and are remembered involuntarily, unconsciously. Moreover, they are voiced precisely at an age when we are not yet able to filter information and evaluate it critically, especially that which comes from the people dearest to us.
In addition to self-doubt, our past has left many “gifts” that prevent us from living fully today. Distrust of the world, inability to make decisions and take responsibility, failure to choose a profession and find one’s place in life - this is only the visible part of the iceberg; the roots of all this lie deep. It is not always possible to deal with such a volume of material on your own. Free consultation
from a psychologist, is the first step towards confidence.
Ksenia Golitsyna, Emotional therapist, psychologist 2013 Official website wayto.life Practice gratitude: wayto.life/pay
Essay 3
It is difficult to imagine a person’s life without interaction with society. How do people feel unsure of themselves and their capabilities? In fact, the inability to correctly position oneself in society greatly influences one’s future fate. The problem is low self-esteem and excessive shyness.
The cause of low self-esteem and uncertainty in many cases begins in childhood. Incorrect upbringing of a child, excessive strictness and underestimation of his potential capabilities entail great consequences in adult life. People who lack self-confidence have practically no opportunity to build a normal career, start a family, etc. The modern rhythm of life will not leave a trace of uncertainty. It is worth fighting this problem from the first signs. An insecure person may be embarrassed to ask the bus departure time, but then what can we say about complex relationships in society? Of course, it would be wrong to ignore other causes of excessive shyness and uncertainty. For example, problems with appearance expose a person to the perception of himself as worse than others. In any case, action must be taken.
Overcoming uncertainty is easier than it seems. What do you need to do and understand to improve your own self-esteem? Ideal people do not exist, no matter what skin color, height, weight, position in society, every person has the right to a decent life. All people make mistakes sometime, don’t be shy and afraid of mistakes. Reading books, interesting hobbies, and sports make a person physically and spiritually richer and raise self-esteem. Even a small achievement is already a victory over oneself and a step towards further development of oneself as a versatile personality. If with all these actions a person feels insecure, then it makes sense to seek help from a qualified psychologist.
In most cases, the problem is more of a fictitious and exaggerated nature. Moving forward and overcoming life's difficulties has a positive effect on one's self-esteem and contributes to further victories.
Examples from fiction
- A.S. Pushkin "Station Warden" .
The main character of the story, Samson Vyrin, works as a stationmaster; his rank belongs to one of the last ranks. He was accustomed to injustice; anyone could offend him, taking advantage of the fact that Vyrin had no right to respond. The main character could not stand up for himself not only because of his low position in society, but the key trait of his character was lack of self-confidence and his own strengths. Samson Vyrin lived in his own little secluded world, where no one cared about him. The only joy in the life of the stationmaster is his daughter Dunya, who looks like her late mother. Uncertainty did not at all prevent Vyrin from living and fulfilling his duties, if not for an accident. One day, a young hussar stopped at his station and took the beautiful Dunya with him to the capital by deception. The heartbroken father went after the offender, but lack of fortitude did not allow the stationmaster to insist on his own and take his daughter from the hussar’s house. Officer Minin did not consider the bride's father a worthy person and decided to give him money, just so as not to see him at his door anymore. Indecision and helplessness did not give Samson Vyrin the opportunity to fulfill his fatherly duty and help his daughter; he understood that the flighty hussar would not marry her, but would play with her and leave her.
Lack of self-confidence destroyed the main character; he died alone and in poverty, never forgiving himself for not saving his own daughter.
- A.P. Chekhov "Man in a Case" .
At all times, there have been people who were unsure of themselves and their own strengths. They often avoid other people and communication with them because they doubt their own worth. It happens that such an attitude towards oneself ruins one’s life and leads to dire consequences. A true example of an insecure person is the main character of the story A.P. Chekhov Belikov, he works as a teacher of the Greek language. His whole life is contained in a “case”; even before going out, he thinks through his outfit so that fewer people pay attention to him. Belikov's main goal is to be invisible, so he becomes angry and aggressive when he has to come into contact with someone. The main character of the story is a law-abiding citizen and has always been dissatisfied with those who at least somehow deviated from the established rules. Because of this adherence to principles, those around him avoided him, fearing punishment for his violations. When trying to change his life, Belikov realized that he could not live differently, he could not be part of society. Existence outside the “case” ruined him and led to his death. The main character of the story “The Man in the Case” is proof of the terrible consequences of such a human quality as complete self-doubt.
- F.M. Dostoevsky "Crime and Punishment" .
The main character of the novel F.M. Dostoevsky's "Crime and Punishment", despite his attractive appearance, was a very insecure, withdrawn and gloomy person. The reason for his uncertainty lay in the extremely poor situation in which the former student was: the room was very small and miserable, the clothes were worn out, there was nothing to pay for lunch. It was his financial situation that made him gloomy and complex; any communication with people infuriated the main character. Pride did not allow Raskolnikov to accept help from his mother or Razumikhin; he considers this too humiliating. The state of need gave rise in the main character’s head to the idea of dividing people into two types: those who have the right and those who tremble. He decided to get rid of his self-doubt by killing a man to test the correctness of his theory. But everything didn’t go according to plan; her sister died along with the evil old pawnbroker, without harming anyone. Having committed a crime, Raskolnikov does not feel the long-awaited relief; he only gets worse. He is not a killer by nature, he is just an unhappy, desperate man who has completely lost peace after what he did. In order to somehow ease his mental anguish, Rodion tells everything to Sonya Marmeladova, who calls him to repentance and responsibility for his action. Having received his punishment, Raskolnikov does not feel relieved, because he cannot forgive himself, only love could help him overcome all difficulties and overcome negative qualities in himself.
- N.V. Gogol "The Overcoat" .
An insecure person cannot appreciate himself, and this is what happened to the main character of the story N.V. Gogol's "The Overcoat". Akaki Akakievich, most of all in his life, was afraid of what people would say about him, he understood how low a class he belonged to and therefore allowed others to mock and make fun of him. The only way to avoid humiliation is to remain unnoticed, so Akaki Akakievich avoided people. It seemed to him that respect could only be earned by material well-being, which is why it was so important for the main character to sew an overcoat. He was sure that this thing would open all the doors in life for him, he really believed in a better future that awaited him with a new overcoat on his shoulders. When the long-awaited new thing was purchased, the main character was radically transformed, his uncertainty and isolation disappeared, and his colleagues began to treat him completely differently. That is why Akaki Akakievich dies, having lost not only an expensive item, but also his only opportunity for public recognition. He could not return to his old life; death was better than the former mockery and humiliation. Nikolai Vasilyevich Gogol wanted to convey to the reader that no matter what social class a person belongs to, one must respect oneself and not allow others to look down on one’s personality. Everything is in our hands, the main thing is to believe in our own strength.
Reasoning
Speaking on a global scale, any self-doubt is a lack of trust in oneself. There is trust in others, trust in the world, and there is also trust in yourself. Also uncertainty are some fears, doubts and concerns. This is a certain awareness that a person cannot do something or that something will not work out for him.
That is, a person trusts how he thinks, what decisions he makes. He trusts his tastes, his desires and everything that is born in his soul and head. But if a person does not trust, then he begins to pay very much attention to what others say. How they evaluate it, what they advise. That is, the main reason for insecurity is a lack of self-confidence. There are many reasons for the appearance of insecurity, for example, a person looks for flaws in himself. He looks for what is wrong and makes decisions in life based on failure. Also, another reason for self-doubt can be a person’s environment. And it is a very big misconception to believe that one person can change the environment. Most likely, the environment will change a person and this will be gradual and imperceptible. And a person can wake up one fine morning and realize that he is already different. It is the environment that doubts and criticizes a person.
Insecurity also appears when a person cannot rely on himself. And it doesn’t matter financially or emotionally or in any other way. A person needs someone to feel supported in life. But if a person understands that he can cope with all difficulties on his own, then the importance and value of support decreases slightly. Accordingly, it will be much simpler and easier for a person to make independent decisions, without looking at the assessment of others. Another reason for self-doubt is the lack of awareness in life. When a person loses touch with reality and life, ceasing to track the factors that brought a person happiness, good mood or pleasure.
It is necessary not to analyze the causes of uncertainty, but to solve them. A person is not obliged to achieve success, because the criteria for success are very diverse. There is no single criterion for success, you just need to be yourself. Everyone cannot love a person. On the contrary, a normal person is loved by a very small number of people, because he is normal, and therefore original. In order for everyone to love a person, he will then need to adapt to each person, he must be a chameleon.
9th grade OGE 15.3
